Sex isn’t a Contest: Why Women Should Stop Comparing Sex Lives

Jan 11, 2018

It’s not uncommon for a group of friends, male or female, to discuss sex when they get together, and talking about sex is good, it’s a way to be intimate with your friends and get things off your chest that you don’t feel comfortable with discussing with others. But the discussions about sex can have a downside too–envy.

While men tend to experience sex as a predominantly physical activity, women tend to experience sex on a more cerebral level, and while men may experience sex differently than their friends–the person they’re with, their perceived or actual prowess–they still tend to have relatively relatable experiences between them. Women, on the other hand, will tend to share stories that differ more greatly. While one woman in the group may have had a pleasure filled weekend, another may have been made to feel dejected and abused by a similar situation.

As stated above, women experience sex on a more cerebral level than men. Past sexual experiences, their own mental image of themselves, and how she currently feels about her sexual partner can all color the individual experience. Or in other words, women all experience sex differently, and comparing sex lives just serves to leave us feeling like we’re missing out on something.

Don’t feel like there is something wrong with yourself, your sex life, or your partner if you aren’t having multiple orgasms like Rebecca, or having sex every day like Janet. You’re you, and you don’t need to live up to what your friends are doing.

This isn’t to say that giving or receiving sexual advice from your friends is necessarily a bad idea. If you’re not getting enjoyment out of your sex life, you can seek advice from your friends, but don’t dictate whether or not you have an enjoyable sex life based on the stories your friends tell.

To get the most out of your sex life, be open with your partner. Tell him or her what you like and what you don’t like. While giving directions in the bedroom may seem a little less than romantic, it’ll likely lead to a more enriching sex life for you and your partner, and it will help keep your relationship open and honest in a way that will help it thrive throughout the years.

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