Let’s not pretend relationships are easy for any party involved. The best couples did not get to where they are through chance or good luck. They take a great deal of commitment and hard work in order to be successful. Here are our tips for staying happy in your relationship.
Never Stop Dating
After years together, it may seem difficult to keep the same spark alive that you had when newly dating. This feeling is vital to keeping passion in the relationship. Going on regular dates helps the two of you understand each other better and is exciting, just as it was when you first began dating. Dating does not always have to mean going to a nice restaurant. Consider staying in and cooking together or going on a walk in the park.
Perfect relationships without any conflict do not exist. Every couple has arguments, and that is healthy. The key is not to avoid problems completely, but rather to work on trying to solve them together. You will each learn about respecting your partner by “giving in” a little so you can both be happy. Life will always present issues, but knowing you can overcome them together is a major key in keeping relationships happy and strong.
Show your partner you are focused on them by eliminating distractions. Once you have put away the devices, make an effort to show your partner you are interested. Take time to process the things they say and respond with care and detail. Do not let your own opinion or judgment interfere with the way you listen to your partner. That shows that you are less curious about how your partner feels and more concerned with yourself. Ultimately, being present shows that you are willing to see things from another point of view aside from your own.
There are endless ways to show your partner just how much you love them. Showing affection builds connection and trust in relationships. Holding hands, hugging or even a squeeze on the arm are all simple ways to remind your significant other how you feel about them. These physical touches can actually release bonding hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin in the brain. If you feel you are not getting enough attention from your partner, do not hesitate to mention it. You are both sure to benefit from the affection.
Miss Each Other
Having time apart is incredibly important in any relationship. If you spend too much time together, you are likely to get bored or argue over issues that do not matter. Having separate interests and activities gives you each the time to find your own identity. When you come back together, you will feel refreshed and have plenty to talk about. Not to mention, missing your partner reminds you how special he or she is to you.